Well, the cure part is going to take some time, and really, coaches aren’t allowed to talk about anxiety, technically, because that’s a health care issue, so take this as one adult talking to another not clinical advice.
However! This IS a way to lessen ANY unpleasant or unwanted internal experience more and more over time, because you are going to encounter it with presence and non-resistance and self-care (read: love).
Here is a summary of the steps of this process:
Notice I am feeling out of sorts
Get present by focusing on my breath, take 3 deep inhalations and exhalations
Identify the feeling and how it is showing up in my body (tightness in chest, energy in nerves, lump in throat, racing thoughts, etc.)
Understand how it is natural you would feel this way given your life history and circumstances of this moment and say this to yourself internally: “Of course it is natural I would feel this way, I’ve been hurt by people before and getting this email was so similar to when X happened.” (For example.)
Understand how this feeling stems from a core value of yourself that you truly do admire: “I actually do have a big heart and I wouldn’t trade that for anything.” (For example.)
Notice that even if you are still feeling the (frustration, anger, anxiety, etc) that you are actually ok, even if you are somewhat uncomfortable. You can be uncomfortable and OK at the same time, especially if you are “there” with yourself to keep yourself ok.
Affirm: “Even if I’m still feeling x, I’m actually still OK, but I can tell that I’m getting better and better at moving through this faster and faster, and I look forward to feeling more (relaxed, peaceful, empowered, whatever your intention is), all in good time.”
Take a few more deep breaths
Engage in a healthy activity (nature, love, pets, walk, connection, reading, productivity, entertainment, etc.)
The above process is one that does not require or encourage you to actively try to “fix”, work on or change where you are at, it is really just one of acceptance and relaxation. Sometimes we can get too worked up and it proves counterproductive when we try to “fix”.
By relaxing, and sending ourselves some love and acceptance we immediately start to move into a better state of being and begin to heal. The more often you employ this process, the more and more the “cure” part starts to set in…You will see less and less of the negative feelings over time.